You have tried to work things out with your partner but you have finally accepted that the time has come to file for divorce. It is not healthy for either of you to try to force a bad situation into working.
Divorce is a stressful and time-consuming journey. However, you can make it a little bit easier on yourself by planning ahead and doing a few important things before you file.
Consult an attorney
An attorney can fully explain the divorce process and the legal requirements expected of you. They can explain alternative options like mediation. An attorney can also help you determine goals regarding child custody and the division of property and assets.
Before filing for divorce you should collect all of your financial documents. This information should list income, accounts, expenses, debts, assets and property. You should collect documentation to prove all of this information. Copies of your tax statements, pay stubs, loan applications and account statements for any type of financial account you own will be helpful for your attorney to better represent you.
Decide on child custody goals
Establish clear goals for child custody for both during the divorce process and after it is final. In all but extreme cases, the judge will likely award some type of shared custody arrangement between you and your ex. Realistically consider your work schedule, any obligations you have outside of work and the schedule you hope to maintain for your children when laying out your goals regarding custody.
Determine your living situation
Once you file for divorce, you will most likely want to live separately from your ex. Deciding on who stays in the shared home may affect child custody. If you will be the one leaving the home, whether this means living with a family member or friend, renting an apartment or buying a home of your own is up to you and your financial capabilities.
It is a good idea to establish a support network of friends and family before you start the divorce process. You will need people to turn to for emotional support. Keeping calm and level-headed throughout the divorce process is important. Having trusted people to vent to and talk things through with will provide the stress release you need so that you can remain calm and clear-headed in all divorce proceedings.