Regardless of why your marriage is ending, you probably have some negative feelings. You may even be quite mad at your spouse. These emotions are normal, but many people let them bleed over as hostility during the divorce process, which can lead to problems.
Forbes explains that there are benefits to remaining calm and approaching your divorce free of anger and negative feelings. It not only will make the process easier on your mentally but also it can help you to avoid a negative impact on your settlement.
Let go of the negative
You need to do things that will help you relieve the stress of the situation and manage your emotions properly. You could talk to a counselor or practice yoga. Do whatever works for you so that you can approach divorce discussions with a rational mindset.
Think about the consequences
When you act out in anger, you may do things that could end up hurting you in the long run. If your mind is on vengeance, then you may want to hurt your spouse in any way you can. This can backfire on you, though. For example, if you do something that impacts your spouse’s ability to earn money, such as tarnishing his or her professional image, then that could reduce his or her income and prevent you from getting spousal support. Another example is keeping your children from seeing the other parent. A judge may see this behavior as detrimental to the children and give your spouse more favorable parenting rights.
So, make sure you think about the consequences of your actions. Avoid doing anything that could lead to a loss for you in the divorce settlement.